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My interview with Barrister Ayegbanengiyefa Ruth Otiotio. A singer, Songwriter, Speaker, writer, Barrister and an Entrepreneur.










Kindly tell us your name in full?

                                                              My Name is Ayegbanengiyefa Ruth Otiotio

 Do you have a Nick name?

                                                                    Lool I have a lot of nicknames… Ruthie, RU tee tee, nengisco, nengi baybee.

Wow that’s quite a lot (smile).

                                                               Haha I know


How was growing up like?

                                                                  Ahh… It was awesome… I’m the first of five children… I’ve always had my siblings and people around me who made life very interesting… Plus my mom and dad I call them the super duo… They did everything in their power God helping them to give us the best of life… I think to a large extent I can say God was and is still absolutely faithful…


What course did you study in the university?

                                                               I studied the almighty ‘LAW’


“Almighty” indeed


What made you studied law?

                                                                   Well a number of things… First I’ve always had a flair for everything that does not involve numbers except it is ALERT. Also I hate injustice. I remember I would watch movies about the American civil war and my blood would boil… I think I would easily have been a Rosa Parks had I been born in that time and place. I also had a lot of encouragement from my dad and people around me to study law. Lastly I figured that a lot of the great leaders of our times and in time past were lawyers so it only made sense to study what they studied… Ha-ha… It’s funny though I’m not into litigation now that I’m a qualified lawyer… I mostly do corporate law… I might dabble into litigation one day may be to defend a rape victim…

I love your sterling sense of humor; the first line of your statement got me laughing real hard

                                                                          Haha… I guess it’s a gift I should think of developing… Thank you sir…

What are the major turning points in your life?

                                                                      Hmmn… I’ve had several, but I think for me life has been more of a process… I’ve sort of found myself blooming gradually… I’m not really one of those people who had major light bulb moments and then their lives are completely turned around… I’ve had probably too many light bulb moments… I mean I read a book I get a light bulb moment… I hear a message. From a conversation with a friend… I think for me I would say my major turning points happen almost every day, such that I find myself changing and getting better in various areas of life… I’ll give an instance I recently read a book by Sunday Adelaja on destroying poverty and he taught me some money principles which completely changed my mindset on how I deal with my finances. I have been practicing those principles and can see change already … So that for is a major turning point…

I guess you have Thomas Edison to thank for having such light bulbs in your possession.

                                                                      Haha… That guy saved plenty things oooo…

I was reserving the book question till later, but since you brought that up, i know you read a lot. Can you tell me some of the books you’ve read, and your all-time favourite?

                                                                          Hmmn… Okay my all-time favourite… That’s hard o… I think I’ll go with Daughter you can make it by Dag Mills a Ghanaian preacher… Apart from my father and mother that was one book that made me believe that a woman can be anything she wants in this world… That book made be ignore blackberry for a day…

Then for novels I’ll say “And the shofar blew by Francine Rivers”.

Ohoho! So you’re a phone addict?

                                                                     Ah Omo… Then o… It was terrible that time bb just came out…

I feel your pain, i can relate.


Wow! Though i don’t read novels

                                                                     You should consider it,

                                                                     Novels can be very interesting.

Well maybe because I am a Realist and Shakespeare choice of words made me flee from novels.

                                                                  Hahaha… Sha I get…

So if you are to recommend a life changing book for a young lady, struggling for which path to take in life, what book would that be?

                                                                      Daughter You Can Make Dag Heyward Mills. I would also add woman thou art loose TD Jakes, Kissed the girls and made them cry Lisa Bevere, any book by Sunday Adelaja, Power of priorities DK Olukoya…

                                                             Lool I know u said one

                                                             But I might as well hehe…

Wow, you’re a walking library.

                                                             Ha-ha! Not at all.

                                                             I’ve just managed to read some books in my small lifetime

I know you to be a lady who is in control of her life, i mean purpose driven and conscious of where she’s heading in life, so were you born like that, or there was time in your life when you were unorganized and unkempt. Would you like to share some practical steps, laws and principles in which you apply to achieve such mastery?

                                                                 Haha… Not at all… I am blessed to be born into a home where we are taught to be God conscious and productive in life… However I didn’t always, at times in my life I have found myself drifting away from the truth… But I’ve always had a sense of direction I want to live a life that would help others so a lot of times when I found myself off track, I would ask questions like if I continue like this what would become of all the lofty dreams God has put in my heart… Somehow I’m able to navigate my way back with the help of God. Another thing for me that is key is being real with God… Like if you know what you’re dealing with, don’t act like you’re not dealing with such things and be forming like you have it all together… Be as real as you can with him and he will help you… Also the people around you… I’ve had to un-make (if there is such a word) bad decisions about people around me. When I did that the right people came gradually

This is deep!

I also know you have this unwavering passion for business, can you tell us your journey in to the business world, your first love for it. Being a barrister, and still having the zeal for business, how does that come to play, in details please?

                                                                           Hahaha… I’ve always loved business… When I was younger I would string beads on threads and sell them to my mom as bangles and earrings… At a time I and my sisters started something called glitter family… We would make cards for Christmas etc. and sell them to anyone who cared to buy mostly family…


                                                                       Then while in law school, I would order shoes from the UK and my sister would bring them for me when she was on holiday and I would sell them. After a while I learnt to make Ankara accessories and started that… I made earrings for my colleagues in law school… By the time I went for Nysc I realized I could make my business a gifts business and supply souvenirs for events so that took off as ARO GiFtS selling hampers during Christmas…

It has always been in your blood then.

                                            Right now we are working on expanding into events proper…

                                           That is still in the works though so I’m not able to say much.


Am staring to think this law thing you studied was just for formality sake.

Can you tell us your business name, and what are the challenges you have faced running the business?

                                                                  ARO GIFTS is the name for now, but we are working on rebranding it to ARO GiFTS and Events… It is a gift and Events Company that supplies souvenir items for special occasions, and the events part, we are working on becoming a one stop center for all events need… So basically we want to be the company that plans your event… For me the ability to keep your customers is one key area for me, and them finding the right people who can run with what you have in mind.

 My major challenge has been people. Then next to people was the increase in dollar rate, it was really bad at a point. Because the prices skyrocketed so much so that it was hard to even tell your clients the new and improved price of certain items.

I guess the dollar issue is felt even by an unborn child.

                                                                      I forgot to mention that we are also put an African touch to all our items… Yes o.

How were you able to manage and still keep the business alive?

                                                                 It was something else, at a point i had to focus on other things for a while then think on how I could re-strategize….


I guess every business at a point will take a blow. That’s where persistence and passion kicks in.

                                                                   Yes sir!



 How did you come about the name Aro gift?

                                                                        Ha-ha! ARO is my initials. But the full name of the company is ALLURING ROSE.

Alluring rose. That’s awesome

What are the core values and principles that govern your business?

                                                                                   First our catch phrase is To you with love

                                                                                   We want to create happiness in everyone’s life

                                                                                   Our customers, and the recipients of the gift items,   

                                                                                Both those who work for the company.

                                                                                 We want to create a world of happy people.



Happiness is an essential element next to oxygen in a Man’s life

                                                                                     Yes it is

Okay, that’s brilliant

How can people find you online?

                                                                                        Okay! Facebook: Ruth Otiotio, Instagram: nengiyefa

                                                                                          Business handle: Instagram:


Funny question.


As a young vibrant lady who has so much going on in her life, do you sometimes feel like, men find you intimidating?


                                               I hope not… I think I’m pretty easy to get along with when you get to know me.

                                              From afar you might not feel that way though… Hahaha

Oh okay.

                                             I guess some might, but that shouldn’t be the case unless he is NFA

                                              No FUTURE AMBITION.

Most men get scared easily, they just have a nice way of concealing it.

                                                                                                     Lool okay o…




On a lighter note, have you had a funny experience with a man trying to get your attention?


                                                                            Hahaha yes somebody once told me my head is like world cup.

I can’t believe I laugh really hard to this one, was that supposed to be a compliment?

                                                                              Yes it was…. Haha… I almost fainted with laughter myself, so I understand.

 What would you say to young women who see marriage as their only life assignment?

                                                                      Please! Please, and please… That is such a dangerous misconception. Marriage is part and parcel of a greater assignment. God knew that the job he gave each of us to do is such that we would need a companion to help us… Both in good and bad times so he gave us marriage as a platform… Please it is important for ladies to fully develop their God given abilities to the point that they can deliver it with excellence to the world. Marriage is very important but it is not the end of the matter… If it was God would have made life such that once you marry you will go straight to heaven because you have completed your assignment. I pray that God almighty would reveal his deep secrets to all young ladies especially those from the African climes. We have so much to offer and this can be done in absolute humility and true surrender to God if with top notch excellence too.


i can see the passion in which you respond to this question, and you put it in a more succinct way.

                                                                          I believe it is something that really needs to be addressed…

When you look around the world, especially Nigeria, and you see the way the young girls are living their life, what comes to your mind?


                                                                                               They are eagles that think they are chickens.

Do you think the environment has conditioned them that way?

                                                                                          Many yes but some have been placed in the right environment but lack the understanding of who they really are so they settle for less. We started a program last year for young ladies it’s called Rubies international where we come together and discuss several of such issues although it has been on and off. I think this discussion is a prompter that there is need to work on making it steady…  The aim of the program is to deal with these sorts of issues… And create a shift in the mindset of young ladies particularly those of African descent.

Wow! I love this

How can ladies struggling with personal issues, get to you personally, and receive help?


                                                                    They can email me on or send me a direct message on any of my social media handles.


This is helpful. Thank you

                                                                 Thank God and thank you for the privilege to share.

Do you have Mentor(s)?


                                                                              O yes.

                                                                      My parents, Folorunsho Alakija, Pastor Funke Adejumo,

                                                                      Christine Caine just to mention some

 Wow, awesome people.

Do you have a favourite quote?

                                                                               Not really… I don’t really keep quotes in mind but when

                                                                               I see them they jump at me at times…

Three more question before we round up this interview, if you don’t mind, i just can’t get enough of your responses, brilliant and enlightening.

                                                                              Alright thank God for wisdom

What trigger your love for the less privilege?

                                                                                       Honestly I don’t know… I’ve always wanted to help

                                                                                        People for as long as I can remember… I think it’s

                                                                                        Just how God wired me.

Guess you’re a compassionate being?

                                                                                        I do try… It’s not always easy to be compassionate…

What are your talents and skills?

                                                                                                 Haha I sing… If I may my first single will be out on

                                                                                                     The 21st of June. I think also speak well… I write

                                                                                                     Too… Lool…I think I’ll leave it there for now

Ehehe, super woman, wonder woman.

                                                                                                        Lool. Haha I wish


Will you be doing the album lunch?

                                                                                      The full album would be ready toward July

                                                                                       ending… But there won’t be any official launch per say…

Alright. it’s a quantum leap, as per your assignment on earth, like the late Dr. Myles Munroe would say, live full, die empty

                                                                                    Yes sir… We should all strive to die empty…




Do you have any regrets?

                                                                                        Lol no.

What would you like the world to remember you for?

                                                                                    Acts: 13. 36. For David, after he had served his own

                                                                                       generation by the will of God, fell on sleep, and was laid

                                                                                    unto his fathers, and saw corruption:

                                                                                      If u replace the David with my name and all the his

                                                                                    with she… That is what I want my obituary to read.


Your last word for this interview if there is any?


                                                                 I think the world is in such a state that it needs help and comfort. For me everything I do stems from the fact that I am a born again, child of God. I firmly believe that we have the answers the world needs and it is time for everyone to let their light shine for all to see… The bible says that Nations will come to your rising so if we are not rising I’m not sure if they will come… I would urge each and every one of us to arise and shine because the glory of God truly is upon us… And if anyone is yet to know this God I have been rambling about… He is ever ready with arms open wide… All it takes is a prayer of faith like this one… Dear father, I’m sorry for all the things I have done wrong. Please forgive me and save me. Help me become the best version of me as I strive to serve you. If you just said this prayer. Welcome Home baybee… The King loves you and so do I. If you can find a Bible believing church near you and begin attending there or contact myself or the interviewer with the information provided… Too much love everyone and ALL THE BEST…

Thank you to Wise Solo for this opportunity to share my little… God bless you and increase the works of your hand sir… You are appreciated… Thanks.






It seems to me that am asking a question I already have an answer to, but I think it’s more safer for me pose it inform of a question, since I might not have all the facts. Something happened to me recently that compelled me to write this article.
Few months ago someone approached me to help her get a corper that could home school her, since she couldn’t read and write English language fluently. I took the task upon me to go get her one, something I thought would be an easy task, end up being like wandering in a jungle hunting for a treasure without a treasure map.  Luckily for me I saw a corper and told her I needed a corper if she’s free to take an adult for a home lesson, but she said she wasn’t free, but there are many corpers around she could get for me. But something compelled me to rephrase the way I projected my need to her, so I immediately rephrased my statement. I told her if she could get me an intellectually sound corp member, but i was shocked the response I got from her. After a long seemingly endless pause accompanied by a deep loud sigh, she finally uttered a thought wrecking statement. These were are words, “there are corpers oh, but getting those ones that are intellectually sound might be a bit difficult, because most of the corpers you see around, are just there, nothing spectacular” and I kept silence, wondering what was so difficult about getting An intellectually sound corp member, I mean these are graduates. The world difficult there is what i can’t fathom, since I wasn’t asking for a life unicorn, neither am I demanding for a white elephant. Well I appreciated her honest response, she said she has someone in mind, but she’s sure he would have been seriously engaged with so many productive activities that would yield him money. I guess that’s what happens when you invest so much in yourself, you become a hot cake, I said to myself.
The following week I saw a corper he looked intellectually sound to me, so I thought. Well looks can be deceiving, at least in this case. Long story short, I succeeded in convincing him to take her for the home lesson. Few weeks later to my greatest bewilderment, the woman I asked him to teach was the one correcting him on some of the spelling blunders he was making. To the extent the woman’s children had to call her attention to it. Now that gave me a root shock, because I can’t help to wonder what someone was doing from their 100level to final year, without significant improvement on their intellectual capacity. No wonder many experts asserted that the problem of the Nation is not Unemployment but Un-employability. We have so many confident ignorant and illiterate graduates parading the street with alluring credentials they can’t defend out rightly.
Now before you pounced on me, or put on your defensive gown that one experience with a corp member is not enough for me to categorize all corp members in to such unfavorable climate. Wait till you read my next story. There’s no denying of the fact that there are few brilliant, intellectually sound graduates, but please notice the choice of my words in the last statement, you could read it again if you want to. Must they have to be FEW? I mean isn’t the goal of passing through school is to be educated? Well that’s the discussion for another day.
I couldn’t get over those experiences in a hurry, so I was narrating the ordeal to some else, and the person laughed, and said my experience is infinitesimal compared to hers. She leaned forwards as she gave me the full download of the story as my ears tingles.
There was a man looking for corpers to tutor in his primary school, so he went to secretariat to go request for corpers, they gave him three corp members, he left with so much satisfaction thinking his request has been met, not knowing that the excitement is going to be short lived once he saw their performances in his school. He gave them a written interview to write a letter, they fumbled their way through it, he forgave and chose to overlook it, thought maybe such mistake was borne out of nervousness, but he was about to find out in an embarrassing way. As day’s turns into weeks, he noticed whenever he passes the classes where those corpers are teaching the student while the corpers are in the class, it is either they stopped till he passes, or they immediately convert it to home work. That has been going on for a while, till the day he had enough and decided to attend the class of one of the corper, he couldn’t describe the magnitude of spelling errors the corper has been feeding the students with. He got so furious that he couldn’t conceal his anger he has to go back to the secretariat to report his dilemma with the so called corp members.
That was her experience, I left there in awe, now you see the reason why am forced to write this article, it wasn’t forced out of hate, or to paint or label some people incapable, but to state the obvious. These are few out of my countless embarrassing encounters with corpers.
We know that the educational systems is not so encouraging, but that would be addressed in a different article, but my point is this, you have to take it upon yourself to develop yourself and not leave your future at the mercy of the government, luck or fate. So this article is birthed of out of pain and disappointment, please permit me to ask the question again, ARE NATIONAL YOUTH SERVICE CORPS INTELLECTUALLY SOUND?

She’s NOT like you bro!


Have you ever heard people breaking up for the silliest things? Have you ever asked people of what is wrong in their relationships, and half way through their response you just kept imagining how dumb someone can be, or how blind they are to their own fault.

I remember asking a guy who was ranting about how insecure and a nag his girl was, I asked him what he did wrong, and his response was “NOTHING” and I know In a woman’s world when a guy’s says nothing, there is thousands of things he has done but too blind to see them, so I asked again what do you mean by nothing, he said i took her to an eatery and we were having a nice time not until a gorgeously, smoking hot looking lady walked in and I just couldn’t help but screamed “wow” in amazement, and my girl got angry and walked out on me , she didn’t even finish her meal. , I looked at him and all I saw was lust written all over his face, if I were a lady I would be knocked in to the realm of jealously and anger too. The point this clueless guy failed to realize is that, he just showed his girl point blank, that she doesn’t matter to him, and he could trade her for anything inside skirt that cared to pay him attention. You taking her to an eatery was to show her that she’s important, that you could show her off to the world that you’re proud of her, not the meal fool, he even have to say she didn’t finish her meal, bro she didn’t follow you for the meal dumb head.

That some months back, lucky for him he was able to straighten things up with her, but recently he came crying to me that she lost her, well I wasn’t surprised, but I had to ask him what happen like I care, he said they were having an argument about her gaining weight, and this numb skull has the gull to pull out his ex-girlfriend’s picture to show her, that all the time they dated, she was never over weight, this dude probably know nothing about “making  your woman special 101” that was the height of stupidity  anyone could attain in this life. He didn’t realize that she just puncture her self-esteem, he literally destroy her will to live by doing that.  First off, buy pulling out his ex picture, he just showed that he still prefers his ex over her, secondly keeping the picture around further proves that there is every likely hood for him to go back to her.

Truth is, I wasn’t surprised she left him, he deserved that, most guys are so clueless, no wonder zig-ziglar said some people are so narrow minded that they look through the key hole with two of their eyes opened. No wonder you ask most guys about their ideal woman and they go ahead to describe another man. Bro! you need to get this point, she’s not you, she’s your opposite, whatever you think suits you is the opposite of what she wants, she’s an EMOTIONAL being and you’re a LOGICAL being, what she feels is more important to her than anything, whenever you want to do anything ask yourself this simple question is this going to hurt her, is what am doing respecting my woman or a sign of disrespect to her. For any woman reading this and wishing your man would see this, you can as well send this to him, thank you.



Few days ago I was pondering on the word happiness, what is the determinant factor for happiness? Afterwards I asked myself this simple question “when last have I been truly happy, so happy that I screamed like a little baby jumping around with no worries” then I realized it’s been a very long time, so long that I can’t even remember when. I was so ashamed of myself to see the level of damage I have done to myself, the question about happiness keep reoccurring that I have to ask someone if I was the only one in this depressive self-deprecating prison.

I asked him when last was he genuinely happy that he forgot about every possible burden he has, to my amazement, it was like he has been waiting long and hard for me to ask the question, he jumped at it like an hungry lion hunting for a prey, his response was “Bro what you asked me now was what I thought of last week, and it dawned on me that it’s been like ten good years, yes one and zero, that I have experienced this thing called happiness. Back then I was much younger and know no worries, since then nothing I planned worked out the way I wanted it” I sensed the anger in his voice, and the cloud of regret covering his face as his voice recedes.

Now here is the painful truth, there is no place or thing called happiness, think about this, the major reason you’ve been sad for such a long time, yes I mean you, don’t even deny it, I know am guilty too, the major reason we’ve all been sad for such a long time is because we’ve tied our happiness to things, people, a goal or a particular occurrence or event that we have imagined in our heart, thinking is going to work out the way we’ve pictured it. Alas! Is never true, am not saying dreams or goal don’t come true, but what am saying is, most of the time things don’t work out the way we want them to be, and the funny thing is even when they do, we end up wanting more or getting disappointed along the way, I can sense you nodding your head in affirmation, that is just the truth. The sad fact is this, if you’re waiting for a big achievement, or tying your happiness to a particular success, you’re likely never going to be happy. I remember reading a book where John D Rockefeller, one of the most richest man in America as at that time was asked, how much money is enough and he said, just a little more.

I know you’re asking right now what then is happiness, well happiness is simple, is a decision, don’t get disappointed because it sounds like a cliché, but is true, until you take the conscious decision to be happy regardless of what life throws at you, I bet you, happiness is probably going to be the strangest vocabulary in your world, why do people get frustrated or disappointed when they go through break-ups? Because they’ve pictured their partner to be this perfect person, and when reality comes knocking at their door, they get frustrated, someone once said, expectation is the mother of disappointment. Begin to live your life and let your happiness be parallel to your circumstance, constantly remind yourself, that no matter what, you’re going to have the best life ever, you will graduate, you will marry the best spouse. As you live your life always remember happiness is a not a place but a personal decision, live right, be the best you can be, as one of the world best motivational speaker Lesley Brown would say-you have greatness within you.

Happy Birthday Mr Aribisala Olajide





When it comes to describing the qualities that this man possessed, is like no words have been invented. You’re a man worth of emulation, I’m yet to see those who sit under your teaching and doesn’t get a mind reorientation because you’re a merchant of wisdom and a mind surgeon.
We are privileged to be under your wings, through your guidance and counselling, forfeit your personal life to respond to a higher calling of service to humanity.
Men like you are rare, I doubt if there’s any, you thought us about having the right mindset when it comes to life, you thought us to live it to the fullest, not driven by material things or money, but to pursue a greater course greater than life itself.
I’ve watched you took the greatest risk, forfeit your assets, discomfort yourself, deny your freedom, let go of personal interest just to better mankind.
Today is not just a significant day, it’s a day when God decided to release a general into this world to build other generals. You’ve done that with everything fibre of your being and never has the cause to look back, even when the roads are tough, the sky is blue and the weather is hazy, you plunge all the same. You always taught us to start a journey in faith and let God meet us on the way.
Happy Birthday Mr Olajide Aribisala, a mentor turned a friend, a stranger turned family, a coach turned soul mate. President of Ground breakers forum. Advance in Grace sir.



AVERAGE is what failures claim when their families ask them why they’re not successful.
AVERAGE is the top of the bottom, the best of the worst; the worst of the best, which of these are you?
AVERAGE means being run off the mill, mediocre, insignificant, and also ran a nonentity.
Being AVERAGE is to take up space for no purpose, to take the trip through life but never to pay the fare, to return no interest for God’s investment in you.
Being AVERAGE is to pass one’s life away with time, rather than to work it to death.
To be AVERAGE is to be forgotten once you pass from this life.
The successful are remembered because they tried. But the AVERAGE, the silent majority is just forgotten.
To be AVERAGE is to commit the greatest crime one can against one self, humanity and one’s God.
The saddest epitaph is this: HERE’S Mr. and Mrs. AVERAGE, here lies the remains of what might have been, except for their belief that they were only AVERAGE.





There was a time when all we wanted was to worship him in truth and honesty,
Not for gain, pleasure or reward.
But now all I see is a gathering full of hypocrites.
I asked Jude why he wasn’t in the church last week he told me he’s sick of the tinted truth,
“I don’t get it why Mr. Ben be praised and Brother Dan be slayed for the same offense” he said.
I thought it was supposed to be equality for all, not dwelling in a shelter where hatred becomes the wall.
We walk around with the holy book, yet we crush our neighbour with our words like the tender Lilly trapped under the soldiers boot.
We dread a murderer so much that we can’t keep one as a friend, yet our hands are filled with bloods of the homeless guy who died of hunger just because we couldn’t afford to take out of the money for our iPhone 6s.
I believe so much in prosperity that I could chase it with all I’ve got, alas! it becomes a curse when I acquired everything while a meal a day is all my neigbour’s got .
Christianity is for everybody but what ‘sup with all the insanity?
I don’t fornicate but inside my heart is a hollow full of hate.
I love my neighbor as myself, but how about the lies i skillfully told and locked it up like a shelf.
I’m not a pastor I shouldn’t be preaching, so if Kate is drowning in sin that’s her burden.
I lived in multimillion Nara estate so please we can’t relate, or rather you switch a place maybe you might fit into my taste.
The Christ you proclaim is not as valid as the Christ you portray.
Please tell me this is why he got slayed.
The countless whips, the gushing gores, even the pain he couldn’t take, thanks to divine grace.
This is a call to the Christians my Sunday school teacher taught me about.
This is the call to the body of Christ when we are not separated by color and a young boy can still give up his meal to save the 5,000 multitude regardless of their culture.
This is the call to the brethren where he wouldn’t have to send floods to erase our ungrateful souls.
This is the call to the divided families that we can still unite.

Scribe’s Ethos: Society’s Porn


I was groomed to hate it

Detest its every sinister form

Lay waste to all compulsion in its employ

Seal up and in any craving for its reforms

But then I see it everywhere

On the TV? Yes but that’s just media rot

On the web, in magazines or even live?

Testaments to failure of kith and kin plus science

And yet I speak not of these

Nor see it in the nudity of mortal flesh

I see it glaring, screaming in my face

Yes, I see PORN on the faces of my


Is easy for us to blame our circumstances; problems; misfortunes; misery and failures on our parental upbringing, nature and environment. Some will even go to the saddening length of blaming God. The truth of the matter is all of these are nothing but excuses.
I remember talking to someone I respect so much, whenever he ask me why I haven’t done a particular task, suddenly I’ll swing in to this defensive mode, and start giving seemingly worthy reasons why I didn’t get it done. He instantly cut me off and he was like “Hey Solomon! What you just said now is called what”? I responded excuses. “Exactly excuses, that’s what they’re called he said” with such a disappointed look.
Roger Crawford was a Loyola Mary-mount university tennis player. He became a professional tennis player certified by the United States professional Tennis Association, before he became a public speaker, an author of three books:

Think again,

How high can you climb?

playing from the heart.

He is a business consultant, traveling around the countries, working for fortune 500 companies.
Roger Crawford was born with a disease called Ectrodactlysim . He has no palms both left and right, and his left leg was shorter than the other leg, having only three toes. It was then cut off left to limp on one leg when he was five. There were hypotheses by medical professionals, professing that he can never have a normal life. This was enough for anybody to give up on life and feel defeated, but that wasn’t the case of this man.
“One of the things my parent taught me was never to feel sorry for myself he said, my father always told me, you’re as handicapped as you want to be” he was taught a life of independence. As you can see today, he is living a life that defiled medical ideology, a life that breaks the shackles of circumstances.
What are you going through now, that made you feel like all hope is gone? Helpless and dejected, I don’t think your case is as worse as Roger’s? Even if it is, he did it. You can too. Don’t let people organize a pity party for you; you’re an epitome of greatness. Stand up, try again, don’t let you circumstances weigh you down; you’re stronger than you think.