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My testimony of how God’s grace saw me through the pains and trauma of losing my eldest brother and my mentor, and some other friends, in one day. My interview with Dorcas Oluwadamilola Aboderin.



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Wise-solo: Please can you tell us your name in full?

Damilola: I am Dorcas Oluwadamilola Aboderin.

Wise-solo: How was growing up like for   you?

Damilola: Growing up was really great, I used to be really quiet and shy, I think I’m still quiet though. I guess that period, it saved me from lots of trouble since I was on my own, most of the time, or with close friends. I bonded more with family and close friends.

Wise-solo: What do you consider to be an ideal life as a young teenage girl, and did your view bout life changed at some point when you became an adult?


Damilola: Based on the environment I was exposed to, you were given a well-done-pat on the back when you get excellent grades in school, that kind of mentality. It was really beautiful then because it helped me set my priorities right, and take education serious. However, I guess my view just adjusted a bit: I used to be scared of failure, I spelt it as being useless. Growing up, I realised failure meant “Get better, or improve”. Instead of killing yourself because you failed, let it be a lesson for you to get better. I guess it was Edison who tried 999 ways and failed when making the light bulb. He rather said he found 999 ways of how not to make light bulb.

Damilola: That’s my mentality now, rather than not do anything because you’re scared it would not work out or you might fail in it, why not take a step, learn from your mistakes, and grow.

Wise-solo: wow so the world out there is not ready for a pity party?

Damilola: Totally true, I know some guys out there who refused to flow with the pity party, like Cobhams Asuko, Nick (the guy without legs). Rather than worry about what you don’t have, thank God for what you have and use it the best way.

Wise-solo: okay we will talk more about your growth process later

Now let’s get more personal….Drum ROLL….

Wise-solo: The past four months was a life transforming season for you, would you mind telling us about it?

Damilola: Alright, that’s great then.

Damilola: It really was! Precisely November got me asking God lots of questions. I was actually involved in an accident with a group of friends, the accident killed my eldest brother and my mentor. I and some others were in coma for weeks, but I’m far stronger now to the glory of God

Damilola: That season, I almost lost my faith in God because I felt he betrayed me. But with time and with God, he sent me some amazing friends who came around to sharpen me. Their comfort that period really made me far stronger. One particular scripture that made more sense to me was Phillipians 1:21, which I’ll paraphrase; “if I’m to live on this earth, I’ll live for Christ. However, death is absolutely more gainful.”

It made me come to terms with the fact that earth is only a temporary home, there’s a more glorious place we should all have in view; Heaven. Lots of glory and peace up there. It made me understand the beauty of Faith in the midst of storm.


Wise-solo: i know there are some things that can’t be put in to words, but if you don’t mind could you walk us through the pain process, what or how  do you feel when the reality first hit your face, when you recovered from coma and expecting the world to compensate you for facing life once again, only to discover you are about to face the worst nightmare of your life?

Damilola: Alright, here’s what happened, When I got to know what happened, what brought me to the hospital, and what happened to everyone else, I actually wished the accident took my life instead, I never imagined I could live with the memories of everything flooding my head, it was too much. At a point, I wished rapture could happen immediately, I just wished the whole world ended. For weeks, I thought it was a dream, it still feels like a dream though, but like He told Paul in 2 Corinthians 12:9, the Holy-Spirit helped me rest on the truth that His grace would help me scale through that phase.

Damilola: So that has been my testimony, that in my weakness, I really found strength with God’s word.

Damilola: I spent more time listening to messages about how we are to handle such situations, through God’s word.

Wise-solo: hmmmm! thank you for being open with your scar, not everyone is brave enough to handle this.

Damilola: It’s my pleasure 😊.

Wise-solo: What would you say are some of the things tragedies are out to steal from people?

Damilola: The truth is, the devil is actually not after your cash, or your spouse, or your health, or your job. He’s after your faith in God. When tragedies hit a person, I believe it has one major assignment, to shift your gaze from God to the storm, to make you lose confidence in God. I believe this one thing is what tragedies aim to steal: Your faith in God and the finished work of Christ.

Damilola: So He looks for ways to touch these things, so you’ll loose faith in God.

Wise-solo: This is so profound.

Damilola: I’m glad it is🙌

Wise-solo: i’ve heard people say they could manage to look over the pain of what happened, but they can’t deal with the memory of loss of their loved ones, what would you say to such person, and how would you advice them?

Damilola: The memories would definitely keep playing back, even on my side, it still does. When the memories flood my mind, what I do is thank God that those who died are somewhere far better. I had a talk with myself after the incident, that for those who went to heaven, as long as they have seen and tasted of the overwhelming glory up there, they won’t even want to return to earth. Though some memories are unforgettable, I let them inspire me to live totally for Christ, to give my whole life out for the gospel. I want to leave this world empty, knowing that I let my light so shine for the world to see and give glory to my Daddy in Heaven.So I’ll advice, for those out there, when the memories come up, thank God for the life they lived, and let it spur you to live with eternity in view, coz the earth is only a temporary home. Heaven is by far better

Wise-solo: thoughtful response.

Damilola: Thank you Wise Solo 😊

Wise-solo: hope am not overwhelming you with questions?

Damilola: 😄😄nooo, the questions are alright.

Wise-solo: Does the incident make you understand The love of God in a different light from what you used to know and believed?

Damilola: Yes it really does, the whole incidence gave me a deeper perspective about God’s love. It made me understand the passage that says God doesn’t tempt us. But he never allows a temptation beyond what we can bear come to us. Meaning, He’s with us through out the trails, and His grace is sufficient to help us scale through and to strengthen our Faith. Even moments when it felt like God was silent, those moments when I got angry with Him, I rested on His word in Psalm 23: He leads me beside the still waters for His name sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadows of death, even though the trials seems so wild, even though the pains were much, I rested on the fact that He was still there as my shield. It helped me trust in His love, that He was with me throughout that phase.

Wise-solo: Wow beautiful!

Damilola: I appreciate Baba God for strength🙌😊

Wise-solo: Having gone through this wilderness experience, how do you now see LIFE  and TIME?

Damilola: After everything, I see life as only being valuable in Christ. I’ve come to understand that it’s only the man in Christ that actually has life, nothing else means anything to me. It’s alright to have relevance here on earth, to excel in your job and your circle, but don’t let it be at the expense of your Faith in Christ. Because we would leave this earth empty, without cash or acquisition or properties. So let your value be “To Know Christ, and To make Him known”

Wise-solo: hmmm so true.

Wise-solo: In essence Tragedy doesn’t come to destroy us only if we let it, but to shake us and give us a reawakening about how life is supposed to be lived.

Damilola: Totally true, and it’s confirmed in James 1:2, consider it pure joy when you face trials of many kinds, because it’ll help you test your faith, bring your faith to the fire to see how strong it is, and the testing of your faith produces perseverance. So I believe pressure through trails helps us know our strength in faith. Relating it to the seeds been planted, when storms came, it was only the seed deeply rooted in the word, that was able to withstand the storm and remind firm.

Wise-solo: Am sure there are people out there reading this interview going through the same pain or worst, please take your time to address them, as someone who have been through it. and let them see the reason to push on.

Damilola: Guys, the truth is that storms would definitely come, the devil has lots if strategies to sway a believer, according to Ephesians 6:10-20. This particular passage helps us know how to be girded as soldiers on earth, so no matter how hard the devil tries, the shield of God’s word, and the other armors, help you withstand the wiles and deceit of the devil.

Wise-solo: hmm profound.

Damilola: It’s just a call to always remain girded, always get ready and fully armoured, before the storms even show up.

Wise-solo: Before we round up this interview, let me ask the last five questions?

Damilola: Alright, please go ahead my brother🙌

Wise-solo: Do you ever imagine there will come a day you will have the strength to confront this kind of storm, and what was the source of that strength?

Damilola: I never believed I would face such in my entire life, I used to be of opinion that a man in Christ would never go through a bad season, I felt bad seasons were only for evil people. But I believe this season made me come to terms with the fact that the devil is always out there looking for whom to devour. We only remain un-devourable in Christ, and when we are fully girded with the armor to resist the devil’s wiles

Damilola: When the storms came, I believe God’s word I had stored up over time helped me shield the devil’s wiles away.

Wise-solo: Beautiful.

Damilola: Yes that’s the major, I believe we should take the word of God as being beyond sermons or verses we cram, and applying it to real life situations.

Wise-solo: What would you say about your late Mentor Barrister Ruth Otiotio, how as she influenced your life and the life of others?

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Damilola: This one in particular gets me really emotional, but I’ll say something notwithstanding, I trust God wants to use it as a message to others out there

I fondly called her mama because she mentored me like a mother. Her memories remain in my heart forever. Every single day, I keep craving for her sincere advice.

I remember how she took the things of God really personal. Her usual quote on instagram was: “The King loves you and so do I”….Now the love of God makes more sense to me now. Her life’s mantra was “Service to God and humanity.” She was always selfless when it comes to serving others, the passion was always there. She handled lots of programs to help so many ladies out there, lots of testimonies came in after every event. I really do miss her, and I’m glad the impact of her life still live on in the lives of many. I’ll stop here please.


Wise-solo: Am sorry it gets you emotional.

Wise-solo: What would you say the young ladies out there should learn from her?

Damilola: I’ll love the young ladies out there to learn from is this:

Understand your worth is not in your body, or your spouse, or your cash. Your worth is in Christ. Let that spur you to live totally for Him, let other ladies be inspired by your lifestyle, let it create a ripple effect in the lives of others around you. Continually use what God has placed in you to transform the lives of others. Know Christ for yourself, and make Him known around the world.

Wise-solo: Thank you so much, i know am bringing back memories but i trust God to use it to transform lives.

Damilola: It’s alright Solo.

Wise-solo: As regard to your elder brother, what would you say about him?

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Damilola: I really hope I can get myself together to say something now.


Damilola: Alright, let’s see. I fondly called him Egbon, as my eldest brother. Bro Segun was less concerned about acquisitions, wealth, fame, etc. Though he had lots of plans to have a great life and family, but his priority was God’s work. He spelt out humility to us as siblings. He represented this deep counsel and agenda of God within and outside His circle. I always observed how He used His earnings to help others in need; we had lots of visits to less-privileged homes, I learnt sacrifice from him. He was always concerned about the souls, evangelism, getting soaked in God’s word. Egbon Segun lived with eternity in view. I thank God He’s somewhere far better, full of glory, where no worries exist, with our father up there; that’s the only thing that gave me comfort after everything happened.

Damilola: Please permit me to pause here, thank you

Wise-solo: I can sense a lot of emotions poured in to this. This wasn’t just some politically correct Eulogy, but this is birth out from deep truth and well of emotions.

Damilola: Yes it is, their life was actually beyond impact.

Damilola: It actually got me emotional, but that’s alright. God knows why everything happened the way they happened.

Wise-solo: How do you intend to convert this pain you’ve experienced to a product that will be beneficial to people?

Damilola: By God’s grace, I’m working on something on my birthday in May, though I won’t disclose it here yet because it’s still under its planning stage. But I believe with the Messages God has placed in my heart from this storm, what we are planning would help a lot of people out there understand the beauty of Faith in the midst of storms and trials. So, I have May 24th in view, to talk about this particular things I am working on. Please guys, be expectant. What God has in store for us through this plan would indeed reach out to everyone in every corner of the world, it will definitely bless you beyond your widest dreams. So, may 24th in view😁

Wise-solo: Am so excited i can’t wait for 24th. By God’s grace he will see you through

Damilola: 😄😄😄please be really expectant, everyone, I believe Oluwa gatz us this season🙌

Wise-solo: I feel it wasn’t just ordinary that you push through the pain process, but to also help others navigate through it.

Damilola: That’s totally true Solo-whizzz, I believe God comforts us to help comfort others (like the way 2nd Corinthians 1:4 explains it).

Wise-solo: If a person who is going through emotional pain and needs to contact you to discuss about it more, how can the person get through to you?

Damilola: It’ll be my honest pleasure having a chat with such a person, I can be reached on instagram @dorcasaboderin, or Facebook as Dorcas Aboderin. Or you can contact the interviewer, He definitely would keep in touch with me.

Wise-solo: What are your last words for this interview?

Damilola: My final words here would be this:

Everything you’ve ever been through, that trial and the pains you experienced, God is aware, and He has promised to bring out beauty from ashes, oil of Joy instead of mourning, to give you garment of praise instead of the spirit of heaviness, all for His own glory. Isaiah 61:3

Wise-solo: Wow thank you for the time you took in sharing your painful experiences with us, as an avenue to liberate other people fighting similar storm.

Damilola: I feel honored to have shared all these with you Solo, it also helped me ease out a lot of all the HolySpirit has been helping me understand this period. I appreciate this platform, and I believe God would use it to help a lot of others out there rest on His faithfulness

Wise-solo: i am blessed by those inspiring words of yours, i guess through the help of God we are stronger than we thought.

Damilola: A loud yes, as long as the fire did not kill us, it’ll definitely make us stronger 💪💪💪




Wise-solo: all right THANK YOU SO MUCH DAMILOLA. “DAMISCO” as i fondly call you.


Damilola: My pleasure Solowhizz, thank you so much.


My interview with Jeff Eromosele, A writer, Public Speaker, Pastor and a Kingdom addict.

Wise-solo: Can you tell us your name in full please

P.J: Jeffery Eromosele…

Wise-solo: Alright

Wise-solo: do you have any nick name?

P.j : Well I do, some persons call me P. J which means pastor Jeff.. That’s like an abbreviation of my name..

Wise-solo: I would settle for that then…P.J

P.J : So I technically adopted it and use it for most of my online write ups…

P.J : But I would prefer you pastor Jeff in a platform like this…


Wise-solo: Tell us about your child hood?

P.J :Growing up for me was a bit challenging and the same time interesting…


P.J :My dad played a major role in my intellectual capacity apart from the formal education I got… I sincerely appreciate those days where he always brings newspapers to the house and we had no choice than to read and it helped me to broaden the scope of my mindset…

Wise-solo:That’s interesting.

Wise-solo: Kindly highlight three major lessons you learn from your challenges while growing up?

P.J :Well firstly, I learnt hard work, sometimes when it’s not convenient for me, my parents would still want us to do what is needed to be done and if you don’t, trust me, you will be in trouble with my dad and so I had a mindset of working hard..

Wise-solo:Okay the first lesson is HARD WORK?

P.J :Yes

P.J :Then secondly,

P.J :I learnt the act of submission and respect, my mum always gives my dad the respect due to him and it saved the house alot of troubles… I discovered from her that humility is the gateway to peace and tranquility in every marriage and home…It’s not always important to have your way all the times in issues, sometimes you just have to bend backward for peace to prevail and that’s why I never saw my dad and my mum fought for one day…


P.J :So I saw where it wasn’t convenient for her to succumb but she just had to… It was challenging to me anyway…

Wise-solo: WOW..”Humility is the gateway to peace and tranquility” what a word, i think i need to tweet that.

Wise-solo: I you ask me, one of the major reason why many marriages hit the rock these days, is the absence of what you just explained right now

P.J :Then lastly, peer pressure was a challenge major to me..

Wise-solo: Yes this is also a huge challenge right here, i was going to talk about that somewhere in the middle of this interview, but since you brought it up.

P.J : The first time I gave my life to Christ, I was still very young even though I really did not know what it means to be saved, I lost my salvation because of peer pressure, I saw my friends doing things differently and I consented to their ways, Prov1v10 says, “do not consent when sinners entice thee”…I went contrary to this scriptures, but thank God, I came back to the lord in 2006 and am still here basking in the lords arm… My mum and my aunt in Lagos played a major role in my restoration process, So I was able to build enough strength resist wrong advances and it helped me stayed in faith. Glory!

Wise-solo: wow.. that’s interesting.

Wise-solo: I know you to be a spontaneous writer, a pastor, and very intelligent?

Wise-solo: so what are the things you are passionate about that i refused to mention?

P.J : By God’s grace…

P.J : Am also passionate about purpose and a strong affinity with the person of the Holy Spirit… These are my cravings all the time..

Wise-solo: Now, we are getting to the real purpose of the interview.

Wise-solo: I know you to have an infectious passion and love for God, any story behind that?

P.J : Well, there are a lots of story but I will just say one of the major, my passion and love for God became fully blown when I encountered one of Benny Hinn book titled “Good morning Holy Spirit”, it transformed my life and since then my desire for God climaxed and I still watch videos of Him today..

Wise-solo: Interesting.

P.J : Hence the reason for my passion as regards the affinity with the Holy Spirit..

Wise-solo: You’re also an avid reader, would you like to share some of the books you’ve read in the past that has transformed your life, and please tell us about your all time favourite book, and some of the lesson you learn from it that made it your favorite?

P.J : Okay.

P.J : Well, two books stood out for me, they are, “the pursuit of purpose by Myles Munroe and Good morning Holy Spirit by Benny Hinn.

P.J : I learnt from Myles Munroe book that God created everyone with a purpose, and you can only Flourish in what you’ve been wired to do… We’ve been called to do a particular thing and not everything.

P.J : And then from Benny Hinn book, the Holy Spirit is the best friend anyone can ever have and He needs to be amplified in our lives by fellowshiping with his personality..

Wise-solo: wow.

Wise-solo: Now to the question of purpose, How do you discover your purpose?

P.J :My all time best book is still Good morning Holy Spirit cos it talks about the greatest helper of all time.. Without Him (Holy Spirit) we can do nothing.

P.J :Then to the question of how to discover purpose.

Wise-solo: YES?

P.J :We must first know that God created our purpose and it’s our responsibility to discover it…So Firstly, we must be connected to the one who made the purpose and then every other things will follow.


P.J :Finding out our passion will definitely point us toward our purpose… Passion is the fire of the soul that conveys to our place of purpose fulfillment.

P.J :So it’s important to ask yourself, what are my passionate about? This question will point you to the problems your life is meant to solve.

Wise-solo:When you look at this generation of youths, what comes to your mind?

Wise-solo: “Passion is the fire of the soul that conveys to our place of purpose” this is the bullet point that pretty sums up everything… trust me this is worth tweeting too.

Wise-solo: So it’s important to ask yourself, what are my passionate about? which many people especially the youths seldom asking today.

Wise-solo: When you look at this generation of youths, what comes to your mind?

P.J : Great potentials with an heavy dose of ignorance….So that’s why they have to be taught the act of Destiny realization..

P.J :That’s what comes to my mind.

Wise-solo: lol…. with heavy dose of ignorance

P.J : Yes.. They always want to do what’s available instead of doing what they’ve been wired for. And that’s what is causing confusion among the youths today.

Wise-solo: How do you think they can be helped?

P.J : Firstly, their mentality needs to be ventilated and knowledge does that ventilation.

P.J : The layers of ignorance must be dealt with by craving for knowledge, it involves reading books and listening to mentors in their desired field of endeavour. The way up is to connect with those that are already there.. That’s where mentoring is very important.

Wise-solo: wow.. so you mean knowledge is what they need, and not their fruitless attempt of trying to look like a particular celebrity?

P.J :Yes…They shouldn’t try to look like any celeb, those that possesses vision and are willing to work on it will definitely be watched on Television..

Wise-solo: wow you hit the point.

Wise-solo: What are the things you would say to a youth who is feeling a void, and not certain which step to take in life, and also to the youth who is about to give up in life?

P.J :Well, they should stay connected to God because he is the source of purpose… And then the place of prayers and diligent study will help bearing in mind that “Rome wasn’t built in a day”,they shouldn’t be scared to start small.

Every vision needs time,a correct approach and the right environment to blossom and become a reality..That’s what every youth should know.


P.J :Knowledge births vision by opening a persons eyes to see correctly.

Wise-solo: do you have people you look up to, as a mentor?

P.J :Yes I do.

P.J : My mentors are, Pastor Benny Hinn, Dr. Paul Enenche, Pst Johnmark Ighosotu and Dr D. K. Olukoya

Wise-solo:Why did you chose them?

P.J : First of all, God connected me to my mentors and caused me to choose them, remember Phil2v13 says “God is at work in us to will and to do his good pleasure”.. They possess the instruction my destiny needs for fulfillment and there is this connection each time I listen to them. It is that connection that makes impact flows them to me.

Wise-solo:What are your plans to affect your generation?

P.J :Basically, most of my plans are pointed towards young people, and so a platform has been created to reach out to them.. One of such is the Ignition network and it’s geared towards sparking God consciousness and activating destiny and purpose fulfillment .. And that’s the reason for the online write ups and nuggets…Also the public speaking will be intensified, it’s time to catch them young and impact them with the right mindset.. So that we can have a world of enlightened people.. And this will be possible through Gods word and the Holy Spirit.

Wise-solo:What’s your idea on marriage?

P.J :Marriage is a beautiful venture instituted by God for the purpose of procreation and destiny enhancement….So if it’s not for these purposes, then it’s no longer marriage but a distortion of God’s order.

Wise-solo: Distortion of God’s order..The BULLET POINT.

Wise-solo:What do you think the youths are getting wrong about marriage?

P.J : It’s most times in the area of aligning their purpose with who to marry… Purpose comes before marriage, we must know what we’ve been called to do before venturing into it because by doing this, the youth will have pointers to who they should spend the rest of their lives with…Amos3v3 says,” two can’t work together except they first agree”..It’s a sync and the God factor that makes marriage productive and not just the euphoria of our longings… Marriage is way above some fantasies..So every youth must get it right..

Wise-solo: It is not a trip to Disney land.

Wise-solo: what’s your favorite quote?

P.J :”Great men are those of extraordinary passion that drives them to fulfillment”

Wise-solo:Succinctly presented.

Wise-solo:If anybody is to read this interview, what would you like them to always remember?

P.J :Everyone is a potential gold mine, look inward , amplify the Holy Spirit and the sky will be your starting point to the realm of no limit.

Wise-solo:What would you like to be remember for?

P.J :My passion for the person of the Holy Spirit so as to please Jesus and cause a divine revolution among the youths and humanity in general… That’s what I will love to be remembered for.

Wise-solo: Lastly what are your last words for this interview?

P.J :Don’t give up on yourself.. You can become all God wants you to be.. Just stay connected to God and the right company.

Wise-solo:I know you’re the pioneer of the IGNITE NETWORK.

Wise-solo: So how can people reach you?

P.J : My email is and then my phone number, 07032449442.

Wise-solo: Thank you so much for your time.

P.J : You are most welcome.







I Hope You’ve been reading the previous parts; this is the concluding part of the post. Continuation, he asked me a simple question “you should have been doing these things, why are you denying my people of my gift?” it was the next week I joined a group in a fellowship, but still low-key. The lessons I learnt was, God is not interested in your church going, but your personal relationship and interaction with him.

Lastly God striped me of every material thing I taught I possessed, I couldn’t even buy new clothes, it was frustrating for me, it was when I knew he wanted me to seek validation in the knowledge of who I am, and not in affiliation to material things, he taught me, that when we attached our identity to the things or people we can lose, we haven’t truly discover who we are. It was a painful lesson I learnt in a hard way.

Lastly, from 2016 to 2017 I applied for several things that didn’t work out, I wrote proposals that was denied countless times, though painful I learn a great lesson of building persistence and perseverance, I was using those failures to build and develop myself, I became more tougher inside, I began to see failure in different light, I began to see failure as an avenue for improvement.

All through those times, there wasn’t a day I wasn’t spending hours in my closet developing myself, I got to know the making of a general is not without tears, I was certain what my future holds, I know the impact I wanted to have in my world, those were my propelling force, I made a vow, that nobody who get close to me, with an open heart will leave me the same, the things I learn must be contagious. Those were what helped me to maintain my focus.

The last part of this article is more of an encouragement and a wakeup call, let me break your religious mindset, no matter any prophetic declaration if God wants you to learn a lesson, he will take you through a trying times and there is NOTHING any man can do about it, you might as well reserve the energy you want to use to pray against demons to improve yourself, and be attentive to God, most of those things are mainly distractions. If you ask me if I would like to go through those periods again, I won’t say yes, but sure I would love to learn those lessons over again. Remembering  that I lost some people to death towards the end of 2017 makes it more scary, but it taught me a great lesson of how fleeting mortals are, tomorrow is not certain, make your mark, follow your passion, don’t die on the wish bed.

This is to anybody who might be going through a difficult moment right now, stay calm, be sensitive to the lessons God is trying to teach you through pains, never compare your life with anyone else, we all are in different seasons of our life, if you compare your pain season to the blessing season of others, you might just end up more depressed. We all are running a different race.

For those who are yet to encounter obstacles in life, anticipate and embrace it when it come, you’re not possessed,  pain is what God uses to get our attention, knowing God experientially doesn’t come while you fold your leg and sipping coffee, experiences are what made great men. I hope you believe me when I say my 2017 being 365 days is not just a number for me.



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I trust you have read the last two part of the article, in case you haven’t kindly do so. I continue from where I stopped in part two.

Without further scrutiny, little did I know that 2017 was an advance version of 2016, more like an advance engineering mathematics?

The pain was quadruple, in 2017; I wasn’t just BROKE I was BROKEN, the thing about pain is, we know it will end one day, but what we don’t know is when, and that’s the most difficult part. God will show you the picture of where you are and where you will get to, but HARDLY will he show you what you will pass through and what it will cost you.

 Almost everything and everybody I relied on let me down, amidst my trying period God was speaking to me, he deliberately blinded people from me so I could truly TRUST HIM, honestly, that was the truth, up until then I claimed I trusted God, which in fact my hope has always been on man, while God was the backup plan, well things are about to change, he has taking matters in to his own hands, if God wants to use you, your absolute trust must be on him, that is the only way he won’t be able to share his glory with no man.

Again in 2017, I came to the end of myself, I felt emptiness and lack of meaning for life, nothing else makes sense, except the true knowledge of him, it was in him I found solace, I remembered I was about to take my shower one day, and I lean on the wall of the bathroom shedding  tears, trust me I was confused, I mean the whole thing was becoming unbearable, truth is God is aware of our tears, but he is NEVER MOVED BY OUR EMOTIONS, what he intend to teach you, you must learn it no matter what it will cost you, Note: I didn’t  learn all of these while I was in it, it was when I was mediating over them, that the blessings of the pain became clear.

As time goes on, I began to understand the work he was doing in my life, then he came again and convicted me of my gift, one morning I was brushing my teeth and I was wondering why I wasn’t operating in a higher dimension of his presence and power, and God spoke to me very clearly by asking me what I have done with the gift he gave to me, he said in heaven, they don’t waste resources, that was the morning I decided to visit secondary schools, prisons, and any gathering to speak and teach people about purpose.

I taught I was doing enough of my purpose, trust me I never want to have anything to do with carrying the bible, not because I hated God, I just hated how grossly abuse that pattern of life was, one day I attended a crusade by a man of God, and God took my attention to all the protocols and the things that were happening, and he asked me a simple question,  will continue the concluding part of this story tomorrow, please journey along with me, read, ponder on it and get blessed by it.


street preacher


You read the title correctly; it is not a typographical error. I remembered a story that was told by the pastor of my local church about  the M.F.M pastor that was posted to a foreign country, he went with the consuming zeal and passion to propagate the gospel, one of the ways he did it was through street evangelism, the decision that shred his religiosity, he made the greatest mistake of his life by approaching a white man to tell him about Jesus, No, the white man is not a typical African or a Nigerian where we are taught to absorb everything with little or no form of evidence, they have been taught to question things, no matter who or what is saying it, so after the white man listened to the endless charade wrapped around the attempt to win the him for Christ, the white man decided to save the Pastor his breathe by interrupting him with a question, “I have no problem with your gospel, but what are your plans in solving the Nigerian problem? Go back to your country solve their problem, then you can come back and tell me about Jesus” says the white man.

The pastor was so hurt, ashamed and embarrassed he immediately applied for a transfer back to Nigeria, the story was told, 5 years ago, everybody in the church laughed over the issue, and immediately mentally rehearsed how the white man is going to burn in Hell on the last day, because that seems to be our automated response to anybody that disagrees with our pattern of Christianity, our usual defense is how dare they come against the anointed? Because sadly enough our salvation has sharpened our judgmental skill, and shut out the place for love, back to my point.

Nobody could see what was wrong with the way we practice Christianity in this part of the world, where we focused on verbal evangelism than result driven Christianity, it was recently when I began to ponder on the story, I realized the white man was a critical thinker and not the enemy of the gospel, because ideally if the gospel works, it should work in the country and the life of the person propagating it, it should be so evident that it draws people to come seek answer from the source.

Would you buy clothe from a sales man who dresses shabbily? I know your answer already, if we can’t, why do we now separate Christianity from the everyday life? We’ve forgotten evangelism is also advertisement, only that it is backed up with the spirit of God, and not just eloquent of speech. Trust me I watched the constructed roads and bridges in China and Germany, and I was perplexed, if one of those engineer in charge of those bridges talks to you about Jesus, trust me you would listen to him 100 times more than a guy in a clean suit from a Nigeria that their road does not have a pot hole, rather their roads are inside a pot hole, but nobody is making any effort other than blaming the government.

I was dazed when I studied the account of Daniel, Joseph, Moses, David and Deborah in the bible, I realized their relevance was tied to solving a national problem, they solve a national problem either before or while they talked about Jesus Christ, but we the Nigerians seems to be reading the bible backward, it is though we were saved to determine people who won’t make heaven and those that we sit at Abraham bosom, while it is important to talk about Heaven and Hell, I doubt if people will listen if they don’t see a convincing result. I posted something on my facebook wall, I said if majority of people are to follow Christ judging by the results of people or elders that have been following him; majority of people will remain an Atheist, think about that.

I implore us, whenever we pick up our bible to share the gospel, we should also think in term of a problem we can solve, the world needs hope, they need rescue, from the orphaned child on the street, the hungry widow, the frustrated house girl who doesn’t get to sleep till 3am, to the commercial sex worker, the dilapidated educational system, down to the child labour, those are a scream of hope, proffering solutions to those problems will yield result and draw people to Christ thousandth time more than our verbal evangelism, because the only thing verbal evangelism will produce is more talk, till all our energies are drained out, not that we won’t produce result, but they will be far more below expectations.

©Solomon Joseph 1-10-2018 3:28am




You must have read the part one, if you haven’t, I encourage you to go read it, so you could fully understand where the story is leading. I stopped at “something happened” this is the continuation.

I stumbled on a teaching by someone, he taught with so much confidence, assurance, and understanding beyond mortal, God why, why didn’t I know this man all my life, story for another day. The man is Dr Sunday Adelaja, the man that seems to have an idea of what I was going through without involving demon, well it was a relieve of some sort, I began to see the meaning to all my pains and frustration, I learnt in the space of 7 months about life, God, purpose, education and excellence, that I haven’t learnt in MY OVER 20 YEARS that I’ve been on earth.

It was then I realized for me to be fully ready for the purpose God has created me for, he needed to rip me of all the distractions, like money, friends and material things, I wish it was as simple as I’m writing this article, trust me, pain is no man’s friend. I shut myself out of the external world and began to learn from him through his online teachings; though my major struggle was to unlearn the junks I have stored in my memory and pride myself with over the years, most of his teachings are not conventional and they wrestled with my religiosity and ideologies, thank God am free, if I should talk about this it will be a full article of nothing less than 20,000 words, story for another day.

I became fully aware of my purpose, I taught I was ready to face the world and transform the mind of youths, but I had a lot to learn, more like the killing of lion by David in the wilderness as a preparatory class for defeating the goliath, back to the point, I struggled through the last year of 2016, just like everybody, I was hopeful, I am about to enter the new year all these struggles are about to be over, if I was sensitive enough I could hear God scream down from heaven saying “you’re a  joker, this is just the beginning” like the end of an interesting Nollywood movies with a continuation, that was those days, I don’t know how they do those movies now.

Happy New Year, this is 2017, you know what to expect, prophetic declarations were flying through the air like a missile from an air strike in Iraq, this year is your year, gibberish! Who am I not to believe them? You know is easier to believe what you have been dying to hear, without further scrutiny.  Bear with me is getting too long; I will continue the part 3 tomorrow.



There is no way I could talk about my 2017 without looking at the midyear of 2016 in retrospect.

I’ve been reluctant to share this story, but the impression has been so strong on me, usually when I feel this way, someone is about to be blessed by it.

It started mid 2016, like every young guy in his mid twenty, I had all my plans laid out, the strategy seems flawless, I have everything checked out my plan was lacking nothing Except GOD. You know when you have everything figured out but didn’t include the master planner is as though you hadn’t made any plan, and when he start to interrupt our plan, we begin to pray against the very God who is going to answer the prayer.

Back to my point, God began to show me is tough love, his first project was to make sure I lose everything that seems to be the pillar of my confidence, it took me some time for me to know it was God, but that was after I might have bind and cast foundational powers, territorial demons, unfriendly friends, the only thing I didn’t pray against was me. I could imagine the good laugh the man upstairs would have heard over my acidic ignorance.

Still I didn’t listen, I continue depend solely on my intuition and brain power, but I didn’t know my brain capacity wasn’t sophisticated enough to zero out God, so I continue in my state of ignorance, by asking everybody that care to listen, apparently, they were as clueless as I was, those that weren’t humble enough to admit it, came up with an explanation that has to do with demonic attack, I applaud their sincere love but wasn’t oblivion to their ignorance.

I’m known to be the energy giving guy, the motivational speaker (though I have changed the title to transformational speaker, because motivation is fleeting). I continue to appear in church and other gathering with an endless smile on my face, though you didn’t need a good shovel to dig down before you realize how fake those smiles were. I will motivate, encourage, inspire and teach people what I just learnt, either from a book, or a self educating video that I just watched. But I was quietly dying inside, all my smile was just a scream for rescue; I was almost drowning in pain and depression.

But something happened which was the beginning of my turn around, To be continued tomorrow.

My interview with Barrister Ayegbanengiyefa Ruth Otiotio. A singer, Songwriter, Speaker, writer, Barrister and an Entrepreneur.










Kindly tell us your name in full?

                                                              My Name is Ayegbanengiyefa Ruth Otiotio

 Do you have a Nick name?

                                                                    Lool I have a lot of nicknames… Ruthie, RU tee tee, nengisco, nengi baybee.

Wow that’s quite a lot (smile).

                                                               Haha I know


How was growing up like?

                                                                  Ahh… It was awesome… I’m the first of five children… I’ve always had my siblings and people around me who made life very interesting… Plus my mom and dad I call them the super duo… They did everything in their power God helping them to give us the best of life… I think to a large extent I can say God was and is still absolutely faithful…


What course did you study in the university?

                                                               I studied the almighty ‘LAW’


“Almighty” indeed


What made you studied law?

                                                                   Well a number of things… First I’ve always had a flair for everything that does not involve numbers except it is ALERT. Also I hate injustice. I remember I would watch movies about the American civil war and my blood would boil… I think I would easily have been a Rosa Parks had I been born in that time and place. I also had a lot of encouragement from my dad and people around me to study law. Lastly I figured that a lot of the great leaders of our times and in time past were lawyers so it only made sense to study what they studied… Ha-ha… It’s funny though I’m not into litigation now that I’m a qualified lawyer… I mostly do corporate law… I might dabble into litigation one day may be to defend a rape victim…

I love your sterling sense of humor; the first line of your statement got me laughing real hard

                                                                          Haha… I guess it’s a gift I should think of developing… Thank you sir…

What are the major turning points in your life?

                                                                      Hmmn… I’ve had several, but I think for me life has been more of a process… I’ve sort of found myself blooming gradually… I’m not really one of those people who had major light bulb moments and then their lives are completely turned around… I’ve had probably too many light bulb moments… I mean I read a book I get a light bulb moment… I hear a message. From a conversation with a friend… I think for me I would say my major turning points happen almost every day, such that I find myself changing and getting better in various areas of life… I’ll give an instance I recently read a book by Sunday Adelaja on destroying poverty and he taught me some money principles which completely changed my mindset on how I deal with my finances. I have been practicing those principles and can see change already … So that for is a major turning point…

I guess you have Thomas Edison to thank for having such light bulbs in your possession.

                                                                      Haha… That guy saved plenty things oooo…

I was reserving the book question till later, but since you brought that up, i know you read a lot. Can you tell me some of the books you’ve read, and your all-time favourite?

                                                                          Hmmn… Okay my all-time favourite… That’s hard o… I think I’ll go with Daughter you can make it by Dag Mills a Ghanaian preacher… Apart from my father and mother that was one book that made me believe that a woman can be anything she wants in this world… That book made be ignore blackberry for a day…

Then for novels I’ll say “And the shofar blew by Francine Rivers”.

Ohoho! So you’re a phone addict?

                                                                     Ah Omo… Then o… It was terrible that time bb just came out…

I feel your pain, i can relate.


Wow! Though i don’t read novels

                                                                     You should consider it,

                                                                     Novels can be very interesting.

Well maybe because I am a Realist and Shakespeare choice of words made me flee from novels.

                                                                  Hahaha… Sha I get…

So if you are to recommend a life changing book for a young lady, struggling for which path to take in life, what book would that be?

                                                                      Daughter You Can Make Dag Heyward Mills. I would also add woman thou art loose TD Jakes, Kissed the girls and made them cry Lisa Bevere, any book by Sunday Adelaja, Power of priorities DK Olukoya…

                                                             Lool I know u said one

                                                             But I might as well hehe…

Wow, you’re a walking library.

                                                             Ha-ha! Not at all.

                                                             I’ve just managed to read some books in my small lifetime

I know you to be a lady who is in control of her life, i mean purpose driven and conscious of where she’s heading in life, so were you born like that, or there was time in your life when you were unorganized and unkempt. Would you like to share some practical steps, laws and principles in which you apply to achieve such mastery?

                                                                 Haha… Not at all… I am blessed to be born into a home where we are taught to be God conscious and productive in life… However I didn’t always, at times in my life I have found myself drifting away from the truth… But I’ve always had a sense of direction I want to live a life that would help others so a lot of times when I found myself off track, I would ask questions like if I continue like this what would become of all the lofty dreams God has put in my heart… Somehow I’m able to navigate my way back with the help of God. Another thing for me that is key is being real with God… Like if you know what you’re dealing with, don’t act like you’re not dealing with such things and be forming like you have it all together… Be as real as you can with him and he will help you… Also the people around you… I’ve had to un-make (if there is such a word) bad decisions about people around me. When I did that the right people came gradually

This is deep!

I also know you have this unwavering passion for business, can you tell us your journey in to the business world, your first love for it. Being a barrister, and still having the zeal for business, how does that come to play, in details please?

                                                                           Hahaha… I’ve always loved business… When I was younger I would string beads on threads and sell them to my mom as bangles and earrings… At a time I and my sisters started something called glitter family… We would make cards for Christmas etc. and sell them to anyone who cared to buy mostly family…


                                                                       Then while in law school, I would order shoes from the UK and my sister would bring them for me when she was on holiday and I would sell them. After a while I learnt to make Ankara accessories and started that… I made earrings for my colleagues in law school… By the time I went for Nysc I realized I could make my business a gifts business and supply souvenirs for events so that took off as ARO GiFtS selling hampers during Christmas…

It has always been in your blood then.

                                            Right now we are working on expanding into events proper…

                                           That is still in the works though so I’m not able to say much.


Am staring to think this law thing you studied was just for formality sake.

Can you tell us your business name, and what are the challenges you have faced running the business?

                                                                  ARO GIFTS is the name for now, but we are working on rebranding it to ARO GiFTS and Events… It is a gift and Events Company that supplies souvenir items for special occasions, and the events part, we are working on becoming a one stop center for all events need… So basically we want to be the company that plans your event… For me the ability to keep your customers is one key area for me, and them finding the right people who can run with what you have in mind.

 My major challenge has been people. Then next to people was the increase in dollar rate, it was really bad at a point. Because the prices skyrocketed so much so that it was hard to even tell your clients the new and improved price of certain items.

I guess the dollar issue is felt even by an unborn child.

                                                                      I forgot to mention that we are also put an African touch to all our items… Yes o.

How were you able to manage and still keep the business alive?

                                                                 It was something else, at a point i had to focus on other things for a while then think on how I could re-strategize….


I guess every business at a point will take a blow. That’s where persistence and passion kicks in.

                                                                   Yes sir!



 How did you come about the name Aro gift?

                                                                        Ha-ha! ARO is my initials. But the full name of the company is ALLURING ROSE.

Alluring rose. That’s awesome

What are the core values and principles that govern your business?

                                                                                   First our catch phrase is To you with love

                                                                                   We want to create happiness in everyone’s life

                                                                                   Our customers, and the recipients of the gift items,   

                                                                                Both those who work for the company.

                                                                                 We want to create a world of happy people.



Happiness is an essential element next to oxygen in a Man’s life

                                                                                     Yes it is

Okay, that’s brilliant

How can people find you online?

                                                                                        Okay! Facebook: Ruth Otiotio, Instagram: nengiyefa

                                                                                          Business handle: Instagram:


Funny question.


As a young vibrant lady who has so much going on in her life, do you sometimes feel like, men find you intimidating?


                                               I hope not… I think I’m pretty easy to get along with when you get to know me.

                                              From afar you might not feel that way though… Hahaha

Oh okay.

                                             I guess some might, but that shouldn’t be the case unless he is NFA

                                              No FUTURE AMBITION.

Most men get scared easily, they just have a nice way of concealing it.

                                                                                                     Lool okay o…




On a lighter note, have you had a funny experience with a man trying to get your attention?


                                                                            Hahaha yes somebody once told me my head is like world cup.

I can’t believe I laugh really hard to this one, was that supposed to be a compliment?

                                                                              Yes it was…. Haha… I almost fainted with laughter myself, so I understand.

 What would you say to young women who see marriage as their only life assignment?

                                                                      Please! Please, and please… That is such a dangerous misconception. Marriage is part and parcel of a greater assignment. God knew that the job he gave each of us to do is such that we would need a companion to help us… Both in good and bad times so he gave us marriage as a platform… Please it is important for ladies to fully develop their God given abilities to the point that they can deliver it with excellence to the world. Marriage is very important but it is not the end of the matter… If it was God would have made life such that once you marry you will go straight to heaven because you have completed your assignment. I pray that God almighty would reveal his deep secrets to all young ladies especially those from the African climes. We have so much to offer and this can be done in absolute humility and true surrender to God if with top notch excellence too.


i can see the passion in which you respond to this question, and you put it in a more succinct way.

                                                                          I believe it is something that really needs to be addressed…

When you look around the world, especially Nigeria, and you see the way the young girls are living their life, what comes to your mind?


                                                                                               They are eagles that think they are chickens.

Do you think the environment has conditioned them that way?

                                                                                          Many yes but some have been placed in the right environment but lack the understanding of who they really are so they settle for less. We started a program last year for young ladies it’s called Rubies international where we come together and discuss several of such issues although it has been on and off. I think this discussion is a prompter that there is need to work on making it steady…  The aim of the program is to deal with these sorts of issues… And create a shift in the mindset of young ladies particularly those of African descent.

Wow! I love this

How can ladies struggling with personal issues, get to you personally, and receive help?


                                                                    They can email me on or send me a direct message on any of my social media handles.


This is helpful. Thank you

                                                                 Thank God and thank you for the privilege to share.

Do you have Mentor(s)?


                                                                              O yes.

                                                                      My parents, Folorunsho Alakija, Pastor Funke Adejumo,

                                                                      Christine Caine just to mention some

 Wow, awesome people.

Do you have a favourite quote?

                                                                               Not really… I don’t really keep quotes in mind but when

                                                                               I see them they jump at me at times…

Three more question before we round up this interview, if you don’t mind, i just can’t get enough of your responses, brilliant and enlightening.

                                                                              Alright thank God for wisdom

What trigger your love for the less privilege?

                                                                                       Honestly I don’t know… I’ve always wanted to help

                                                                                        People for as long as I can remember… I think it’s

                                                                                        Just how God wired me.

Guess you’re a compassionate being?

                                                                                        I do try… It’s not always easy to be compassionate…

What are your talents and skills?

                                                                                                 Haha I sing… If I may my first single will be out on

                                                                                                     The 21st of June. I think also speak well… I write

                                                                                                     Too… Lool…I think I’ll leave it there for now

Ehehe, super woman, wonder woman.

                                                                                                        Lool. Haha I wish


Will you be doing the album lunch?

                                                                                      The full album would be ready toward July

                                                                                       ending… But there won’t be any official launch per say…

Alright. it’s a quantum leap, as per your assignment on earth, like the late Dr. Myles Munroe would say, live full, die empty

                                                                                    Yes sir… We should all strive to die empty…




Do you have any regrets?

                                                                                        Lol no.

What would you like the world to remember you for?

                                                                                    Acts: 13. 36. For David, after he had served his own

                                                                                       generation by the will of God, fell on sleep, and was laid

                                                                                    unto his fathers, and saw corruption:

                                                                                      If u replace the David with my name and all the his

                                                                                    with she… That is what I want my obituary to read.


Your last word for this interview if there is any?


                                                                 I think the world is in such a state that it needs help and comfort. For me everything I do stems from the fact that I am a born again, child of God. I firmly believe that we have the answers the world needs and it is time for everyone to let their light shine for all to see… The bible says that Nations will come to your rising so if we are not rising I’m not sure if they will come… I would urge each and every one of us to arise and shine because the glory of God truly is upon us… And if anyone is yet to know this God I have been rambling about… He is ever ready with arms open wide… All it takes is a prayer of faith like this one… Dear father, I’m sorry for all the things I have done wrong. Please forgive me and save me. Help me become the best version of me as I strive to serve you. If you just said this prayer. Welcome Home baybee… The King loves you and so do I. If you can find a Bible believing church near you and begin attending there or contact myself or the interviewer with the information provided… Too much love everyone and ALL THE BEST…

Thank you to Wise Solo for this opportunity to share my little… God bless you and increase the works of your hand sir… You are appreciated… Thanks.





It seems to me that am asking a question I already have an answer to, but I think it’s more safer for me pose it inform of a question, since I might not have all the facts. Something happened to me recently that compelled me to write this article.
Few months ago someone approached me to help her get a corper that could home school her, since she couldn’t read and write English language fluently. I took the task upon me to go get her one, something I thought would be an easy task, end up being like wandering in a jungle hunting for a treasure without a treasure map.  Luckily for me I saw a corper and told her I needed a corper if she’s free to take an adult for a home lesson, but she said she wasn’t free, but there are many corpers around she could get for me. But something compelled me to rephrase the way I projected my need to her, so I immediately rephrased my statement. I told her if she could get me an intellectually sound corp member, but i was shocked the response I got from her. After a long seemingly endless pause accompanied by a deep loud sigh, she finally uttered a thought wrecking statement. These were are words, “there are corpers oh, but getting those ones that are intellectually sound might be a bit difficult, because most of the corpers you see around, are just there, nothing spectacular” and I kept silence, wondering what was so difficult about getting An intellectually sound corp member, I mean these are graduates. The world difficult there is what i can’t fathom, since I wasn’t asking for a life unicorn, neither am I demanding for a white elephant. Well I appreciated her honest response, she said she has someone in mind, but she’s sure he would have been seriously engaged with so many productive activities that would yield him money. I guess that’s what happens when you invest so much in yourself, you become a hot cake, I said to myself.
The following week I saw a corper he looked intellectually sound to me, so I thought. Well looks can be deceiving, at least in this case. Long story short, I succeeded in convincing him to take her for the home lesson. Few weeks later to my greatest bewilderment, the woman I asked him to teach was the one correcting him on some of the spelling blunders he was making. To the extent the woman’s children had to call her attention to it. Now that gave me a root shock, because I can’t help to wonder what someone was doing from their 100level to final year, without significant improvement on their intellectual capacity. No wonder many experts asserted that the problem of the Nation is not Unemployment but Un-employability. We have so many confident ignorant and illiterate graduates parading the street with alluring credentials they can’t defend out rightly.
Now before you pounced on me, or put on your defensive gown that one experience with a corp member is not enough for me to categorize all corp members in to such unfavorable climate. Wait till you read my next story. There’s no denying of the fact that there are few brilliant, intellectually sound graduates, but please notice the choice of my words in the last statement, you could read it again if you want to. Must they have to be FEW? I mean isn’t the goal of passing through school is to be educated? Well that’s the discussion for another day.
I couldn’t get over those experiences in a hurry, so I was narrating the ordeal to some else, and the person laughed, and said my experience is infinitesimal compared to hers. She leaned forwards as she gave me the full download of the story as my ears tingles.
There was a man looking for corpers to tutor in his primary school, so he went to secretariat to go request for corpers, they gave him three corp members, he left with so much satisfaction thinking his request has been met, not knowing that the excitement is going to be short lived once he saw their performances in his school. He gave them a written interview to write a letter, they fumbled their way through it, he forgave and chose to overlook it, thought maybe such mistake was borne out of nervousness, but he was about to find out in an embarrassing way. As day’s turns into weeks, he noticed whenever he passes the classes where those corpers are teaching the student while the corpers are in the class, it is either they stopped till he passes, or they immediately convert it to home work. That has been going on for a while, till the day he had enough and decided to attend the class of one of the corper, he couldn’t describe the magnitude of spelling errors the corper has been feeding the students with. He got so furious that he couldn’t conceal his anger he has to go back to the secretariat to report his dilemma with the so called corp members.
That was her experience, I left there in awe, now you see the reason why am forced to write this article, it wasn’t forced out of hate, or to paint or label some people incapable, but to state the obvious. These are few out of my countless embarrassing encounters with corpers.
We know that the educational systems is not so encouraging, but that would be addressed in a different article, but my point is this, you have to take it upon yourself to develop yourself and not leave your future at the mercy of the government, luck or fate. So this article is birthed of out of pain and disappointment, please permit me to ask the question again, ARE NATIONAL YOUTH SERVICE CORPS INTELLECTUALLY SOUND?

She’s NOT like you bro!


Have you ever heard people breaking up for the silliest things? Have you ever asked people of what is wrong in their relationships, and half way through their response you just kept imagining how dumb someone can be, or how blind they are to their own fault.

I remember asking a guy who was ranting about how insecure and a nag his girl was, I asked him what he did wrong, and his response was “NOTHING” and I know In a woman’s world when a guy’s says nothing, there is thousands of things he has done but too blind to see them, so I asked again what do you mean by nothing, he said i took her to an eatery and we were having a nice time not until a gorgeously, smoking hot looking lady walked in and I just couldn’t help but screamed “wow” in amazement, and my girl got angry and walked out on me , she didn’t even finish her meal. , I looked at him and all I saw was lust written all over his face, if I were a lady I would be knocked in to the realm of jealously and anger too. The point this clueless guy failed to realize is that, he just showed his girl point blank, that she doesn’t matter to him, and he could trade her for anything inside skirt that cared to pay him attention. You taking her to an eatery was to show her that she’s important, that you could show her off to the world that you’re proud of her, not the meal fool, he even have to say she didn’t finish her meal, bro she didn’t follow you for the meal dumb head.

That some months back, lucky for him he was able to straighten things up with her, but recently he came crying to me that she lost her, well I wasn’t surprised, but I had to ask him what happen like I care, he said they were having an argument about her gaining weight, and this numb skull has the gull to pull out his ex-girlfriend’s picture to show her, that all the time they dated, she was never over weight, this dude probably know nothing about “making  your woman special 101” that was the height of stupidity  anyone could attain in this life. He didn’t realize that she just puncture her self-esteem, he literally destroy her will to live by doing that.  First off, buy pulling out his ex picture, he just showed that he still prefers his ex over her, secondly keeping the picture around further proves that there is every likely hood for him to go back to her.

Truth is, I wasn’t surprised she left him, he deserved that, most guys are so clueless, no wonder zig-ziglar said some people are so narrow minded that they look through the key hole with two of their eyes opened. No wonder you ask most guys about their ideal woman and they go ahead to describe another man. Bro! you need to get this point, she’s not you, she’s your opposite, whatever you think suits you is the opposite of what she wants, she’s an EMOTIONAL being and you’re a LOGICAL being, what she feels is more important to her than anything, whenever you want to do anything ask yourself this simple question is this going to hurt her, is what am doing respecting my woman or a sign of disrespect to her. For any woman reading this and wishing your man would see this, you can as well send this to him, thank you.