ENVIRONMENT THE KEY TO YOUR FUTURE.

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There was a trained police Dog, highly skilled in chasing after criminals, it has an incredible speed, it could chase a criminal tirelessly, till it hunts it down. There was this fateful day, the dog was in a hot pursue of a thief, it was running at an intersection of a major road, with a busy traffic, cars moving at top speed, as the dog was maneuvering its way amidst those cars, there was a car coming at full speed behind it, before the driver could apply a break, it hits the dog, but the it managed to wobble away from the road. Several months later, the dog survived, but could no longer walk properly. It has to throw its first two legs to the front, and wobble with the last two. But something happened, when the dog was hit by the car, it was already pregnant. When it delivered the puppies, guess how they were walking? The puppies will throw their first two legs to the front and wobble with the last two. But the interesting thing was that, they were healthy, sustained no injury. But the truth is this; their environment has conditioned their future. The veterinary doctors were plagued with how they could get the puppies to walk properly; they have tried several times but to no avail. They came up with a plan of separating the puppies away from the wounded dog. It was when they did that, before the puppies could walk properly.

Here’s my question to you, could it be that, so many limitations you’ve placed on your self were caused by the environment you expose yourself to? Human ability is immeasurable. It is our environment that placed a limit on who we are as a person. Think of this, when you were young, you were full of dreams and ideas, you felt like you could do anything you set your mind on, but as you grow older, you began to  give up on those dreams. What happened? Is not because your ability to achieve those dreams that waned, neither you lose interest, but the environment, your society has forced that limitless ability out of you with their negative words.

It has been said that for every “you can’t do it” someone tells you, you need seven different “you can do it” to counter that single “you can’t do it”. Now imagine someone that has been born to such toxic environment all their life till they become an adult. Guess what will happen to their confidence in themselves? Please how many “you can do it” do they need, do the math?

I think of environment as any possible thing; you expose yourself or sense organ to, capable of selling an idea, perception, suggestion and opinion to you. It can be your friends, your families, religion, office and schools, something as seemingly insignificant as your choice of music and movies.

My friend and i  visited the prison some days back, we saw how the prisoners were made to do a hard labour against their wish, I turned to my friend and told him that, every single person you see here, both the guilty and the innocent ones, it was one day they made a choice or a decision that landed them in to this place they are right now. The guilty ones, it was one day they resolved in their minds to make the decision that ruined their lives. The innocent ones, it was one day they decided to make friends with the person that implicated them. What I resolved to was that. We don’t make decisions; it is our decisions that made us. So for every decision you make in life, it is either drawing you towards who you want to become in life, or it is pulling you away from it. If you live with such consciousness, you will pay extra caution to how you live your life, and those you hang around. Your environment is key to who you become in life.

It is a proven fact that who you become in life:

Your knowledge has 10% influences.

Your character has 40% influences.

Your environment has 50% influences.

Needless to say that your environment plays the major role in your life, please guard your space, your circle and your life, with conscious deliberate effort.

THE LIE WITHIN THE TRUTH

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Words skillfully knitted like D.N.A threads

Each cluster carrying out its functions,

It heals, revives, and made whole.

If identity is in doubt it boast more of its function.

It settles all disputes, not like in the hood when it’s done by unloading the rifle.

Deep it in a sauce and it could pass for a meal,

bite, chew and grind all it does is to make it taste better.

Come get me I’m all yours.

Your words has held me captive.

Like an arrow piercing through a dartboard, it hits my soul.

They  said time heals all wounds, tempted to doubt, till your words healed my soul.

Dug the foundation, lay the blocks erect the wall, just like a mansion, your words built my life.

It sold me off like the slave to her master,

held heplessly by a blaster.

Those days you stood by me.

What more could I have asked for from a darling so real.

Walking through the dark,

Step by step, one two three,

the shadows clinched on me,

The shadows of your words,

The shadows of your care,

and of your promises.

Then the light came on, and you were gone.

Oh no! not the great beyond,

That could have been better

Yes I said it could have been better

But you were gone,

Gone back to meet your wife and kids

You told me we could make a good family

alas, this is just THE LIE WITHIN THE TRUTH.

STILL I RISE

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Still I Rise

You may write me down in history 
With your bitter, twisted lies, 
You may tread me in the very dirt 
But still, like dust, I’ll rise. 

Does my sassiness upset you? 
Why are you beset with gloom? 
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells 
Pumping in my living room. 

Just like moons and like suns, 
With the certainty of tides, 
Just like hopes springing high, 
Still I’ll rise. 

Did you want to see me broken? 
Bowed head and lowered eyes? 
Shoulders falling down like teardrops. 
Weakened by my soulful cries. 

Does my haughtiness offend you? 
Don’t you take it awful hard 
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines 
Diggin’ in my own back yard. 

You may shoot me with your words, 
You may cut me with your eyes, 
You may kill me with your hatefulness, 
But still, like air, I’ll rise. 

Does my sexiness upset you? 
Does it come as a surprise 
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds 
At the meeting of my thighs? 

Out of the huts of history’s shame 
I rise 
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain 
I rise 
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide, 
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide. 
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear 
I rise 
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear 
I rise 
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, 
I am the dream and the hope of the slave. 
I rise 
I rise 
I rise.

By Maya Angelou.

YOU CREATE YOUR OWN LIMITS

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Animal trainers understand the psychology of the mind, training animals is more mental than physical. When an elephant is small and they want it to be trained, they tie its leg firmly to a tree. The elephant struggles to pull the tree just to get away but can’t. After many weeks of failed effort, it resigns to its fate.
Years later when the elephant grows larger in size and strength, strong enough to uproot the tree, guess what happens? It does nothing about it. The elephant has been so used to failing that it doesn’t try anymore.
The point is, there is nothing like limitation, the only limitation we know exists in our minds. Limitations are more mental than physical. When you think of limitations, you create them. Have you ever been so scared to try something new, because all the odds appear to be against you? Yet immediately you summon the courage to face it, you realize that what you feared was nothing but a mirage, and you become so proud of yourself, at the same time so ashamed of those times you wasted thinking about what never even existed. Motivational speaker Walter Bond asserted “Get off your BUT, because all BUT stinks”. That’s exactly how it is – all those limitations are mental torture, they keep you longer than you want to, and cost you more than you could afford. Jim Rohn once said “Try anything as quick as possible, if you succeed you become happy, if it doesn’t work out you find out quicker”, so it’s a win-win situation for you.
Whenever I think of limitations I feel it has a lot to do with fear and self-doubt, you’re powerful beyond measure. In the words of Marianne Deborah Williamson,
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frighten us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented,
and fabulous? Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
You playng small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people
will not feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God,
That is within us, it is not just some of us,
It is in everyone and as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give others permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically
Liberates others.
This is how powerful we are, words can’t even describe the magnitude we possess as human beings. We are created to conquer challenges; we are not created for defeat. With all the energy you can gather, the momentum you can possess, with your innate gift and ability, fight your limitations by taking actions despite how you feel or see.

LIMITATIONS.

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others have placed on their own lives. The vision of your true destiny does not reside within the blinkered outlook of the naysayers and the doom prophets. Judge not by their words, but accept advice based on the evidence of actual results. Do not be surprised should you find a complete absence of anything mystical or miraculous in the manifested reality of those who are so eager to advise you. Friends and family who suffer the lack of abundance, joy, love, fulfillment and prosperity in their own lives really have no business imposing their self-limiting beliefs on your reality experience.
Anthon St. Maarten

PUTTING A MAN TOGETHER

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Have you ever been in the middle of something important to you, everything seems perfect until something happens and messed everything up, you start wondering maybe it’s a sign for you to throw in the towel and pack up.
Is your life in shambles right now, probably you’ve made a lot of mistakes in your life time, and all you could think of is how screwed up you have been? Is easier for you to give up on yourself, thinking nothing can be done to this colossal damage.
A man was working on his computer at home, and his younger son keeps disturbing him in order to get his attention, but the man stayed glued to the computer, yet the son persisted the more, out of desperation, the man thought of something he could use to engage the son to stop him from the disturbance, a seemingly impossible task. Suddenly he looked on the table beside him and saw a paper containing the map of the word, he quickly grab the paper, tear the paper tear it in to in to pieces, hoping to send the son on a dreadful task.
He told his son to go put the map of the world on the paper together, joining it bit by bit, piece by piece. To his supreme astonishment the son came back with the paper less than five minutes with the map of the world intact, perfectly fitted in the right position, the man was shocked, and asked the boy, how he accomplished the task so fast, something that appears to be logically impossible, the son enthusiastically told his dad, that it’s “quite simple”.
“There was a man at the back of the map, all I did was to put the man together, and the map of the world was precisely placed together”.
This allegory is synonymous to our life situations, something happens with the intention to shatter our map; our map in this context could be our life plan, goals, aspiration and visions. Those are the attempt of the devil out of desperation to dismantle what we’ve got going for us. Just to send us on an errand to an island of impossibilities, hoping we will spend the major part of our life doing damage control, fixing our past mistakes, but here’s the thing we are a masterpiece, God has got our life together, so when those things go wrong, when we thought nothing possible can salvage this situation, God steps in and put the man at the back of our map together, surprisingly everything will come in to place perfectly fitted. I read a quote that struck a chord within me some weeks back, it says “when you thought you’ve messed up God’s plan for your life, through your mistakes, here’s the good news, you’re NOT that powerful” nobody is so powerful to thwart God’s plan over your life. Even your mistake is not that potent.
I urge you today, please stop leaving a life of regret, you have a beautiful picture ahead of you, and your mistakes are your best resources if you can be prudent enough to learn from the experience.

LET IT GO

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Acquiring things is good, sustenance is lovely, but sometimes security comes in letting go of the things you thought your life is dependent on. A man was driving a convertible car on a mountainous road at top speed. He made a sharp turn, and the car began heading down a gully of about 100 feet; luckily for him the roof of the car was open, so he dived out of the car and managed to hold on to a tree branch, his legs were dangling, while panting heavily as he watched his car nose dive in to the gully. He was running out of strength and scrambling for air. Out of desperation he screamed out for help repeatedly, inching closer to giving up, as it seemed there was no help coming from anywhere. All of a sudden, the clouds began to gather, and a voice proceeded out of the clouds with a rumble “son, I will help you, but on one condition – let go of the branch you’re holding on to”. He paused for a minute, and continued to scream, “someone else, please help!”
I pondered on this story for a while and I realized, sometimes in life, in as much as sustenance and certainties are good, the things we hold on to, are the things stopping us from achieving what we truly want in life.
Faith requires you to lose what you see in order to gain the better things you don’t see, and that’s hard for so many people. They don’t trust God, let alone trust themselves. This singular habit can be a hindrance to so many things in life. One of the men I love so much, Les Brown, once said “Jump down, and develop your wings downward”. Everybody you’ve seen in life started out not knowing how it was going to end; they may have the full picture, but are definitely uncertain of the whole process. They just take steps and watch the journey unfold to their favour. Providence has a way of meeting your needs, if you can be faithful and committed. Late Dr. Myles Munroe asserted, though paraphrased, “God is committed to seeing you succeed, if you’re willing and committed, because his reputation is on the line”.
I am assuring you today, LET IT GO. That relationship with that person that has been molesting you, but you’re scared of losing because he has a little role he is playing in your life, LET IT GO. There is always someone better.
Go and rule your world.

WHAT LIES BEHIND THE DOOR?

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One of the most demoralizing thing to ever happen to people is the fear of the unknown, human beings naturally run from discomfort and uncertainty. While the irony is at the other side of the uncertainty, bears our greatest reward.
I read a story the other day of a soldier that was caught by a group of rebels; he was locked in a dark room for some days, and the commander of the rebels order to bring him out, which they did. The commander told the soldier he has two options, it is either he walks away behind that door in front of them, but there is no guarantee of what is behind the door, or he stays and he die by execution. The soldier paused for a minute, looked at the door once again and asked the commander what is behind the door, the commander told him he doesn’t know. After much contemplation the soldier told the commander of the rebels he preferred to be executed, rather than going through the stress, since they are going to kill him anyway.
He was executed. Out of curiosity; one of the rebels asked the commander, what lies behind the door? The commander shook his head in gloom and told them “FREEDOM” they were all amazed and cold at the same time.
The story got me thinking, that has been how so many of us have been living our life out of the fear of the unknown. That idea you’ve been scared to lunch, that person you’ve been scared to call, the education you’ve given up on. Why don’t you just give it another trial? The beauty about the unknown is, it is always less intimidating than we thought. Whenever you are about to take an action that has to do with your future, and it seems you rather settle for what you’re sure of rather than lunching in to something that is better, always remember what lies behind that door is “FREEDOM”

ARE NATIONAL YOUTH SERVICE CORPS INTELLECTUALLY SOUND?

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ARE NATIONAL YOUTH SERVICE CORPS INTELLECTUALLY SOUND?
It seems to me that am asking a question I already have an answer to, but I think it’s more safer for me pose it inform of a question, since I might not have all the facts. Something happened to me recently that compelled me to write this article.
Few months ago someone approached me to help her get a corper that could home school her, since she couldn’t read and write English language fluently. I took the task upon me to go get her one, something I thought would be an easy task, end up being like wandering in a jungle hunting for a treasure without a treasure map.  Luckily for me I saw a corper and told her I needed a corper if she’s free to take an adult for a home lesson, but she said she wasn’t free, but there are many corpers around she could get for me. But something compelled me to rephrase the way I projected my need to her, so I immediately rephrased my statement. I told her if she could get me an intellectually sound corp member, but i was shocked the response I got from her. After a long seemingly endless pause accompanied by a deep loud sigh, she finally uttered a thought wrecking statement. These were are words, “there are corpers oh, but getting those ones that are intellectually sound might be a bit difficult, because most of the corpers you see around, are just there, nothing spectacular” and I kept silence, wondering what was so difficult about getting An intellectually sound corp member, I mean these are graduates. The world difficult there is what i can’t fathom, since I wasn’t asking for a life unicorn, neither am I demanding for a white elephant. Well I appreciated her honest response, she said she has someone in mind, but she’s sure he would have been seriously engaged with so many productive activities that would yield him money. I guess that’s what happens when you invest so much in yourself, you become a hot cake, I said to myself.
The following week I saw a corper he looked intellectually sound to me, so I thought. Well looks can be deceiving, at least in this case. Long story short, I succeeded in convincing him to take her for the home lesson. Few weeks later to my greatest bewilderment, the woman I asked him to teach was the one correcting him on some of the spelling blunders he was making. To the extent the woman’s children had to call her attention to it. Now that gave me a root shock, because I can’t help to wonder what someone was doing from their 100level to final year, without significant improvement on their intellectual capacity. No wonder many experts asserted that the problem of the Nation is not Unemployment but Un-employability. We have so many confident ignorant and illiterate graduates parading the street with alluring credentials they can’t defend out rightly.
Now before you pounced on me, or put on your defensive gown that one experience with a corp member is not enough for me to categorize all corp members in to such unfavorable climate. Wait till you read my next story. There’s no denying of the fact that there are few brilliant, intellectually sound graduates, but please notice the choice of my words in the last statement, you could read it again if you want to. Must they have to be FEW? I mean isn’t the goal of passing through school is to be educated? Well that’s the discussion for another day.
I couldn’t get over those experiences in a hurry, so I was narrating the ordeal to some else, and the person laughed, and said my experience is infinitesimal compared to hers. She leaned forwards as she gave me the full download of the story as my ears tingles.
There was a man looking for corpers to tutor in his primary school, so he went to secretariat to go request for corpers, they gave him three corp members, he left with so much satisfaction thinking his request has been met, not knowing that the excitement is going to be short lived once he saw their performances in his school. He gave them a written interview to write a letter, they fumbled their way through it, he forgave and chose to overlook it, thought maybe such mistake was borne out of nervousness, but he was about to find out in an embarrassing way. As day’s turns into weeks, he noticed whenever he passes the classes where those corpers are teaching the student while the corpers are in the class, it is either they stopped till he passes, or they immediately convert it to home work. That has been going on for a while, till the day he had enough and decided to attend the class of one of the corper, he couldn’t describe the magnitude of spelling errors the corper has been feeding the students with. He got so furious that he couldn’t conceal his anger he has to go back to the secretariat to report his dilemma with the so called corp members.
That was her experience, I left there in awe, now you see the reason why am forced to write this article, it wasn’t forced out of hate, or to paint or label some people incapable, but to state the obvious. These are few out of my countless embarrassing encounters with corpers.
We know that the educational systems is not so encouraging, but that would be addressed in a different article, but my point is this, you have to take it upon yourself to develop yourself and not leave your future at the mercy of the government, luck or fate. So this article is birthed of out of pain and disappointment, please permit me to ask the question again, ARE NATIONAL YOUTH SERVICE CORPS INTELLECTUALLY SOUND?