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Rejections and criticism are things we can never avoid, as long as we exist and interact with people on daily basis. It even becomes more excruciating when the people we least expect leave us out in the cold and expect us to get warm by ourselves. The question is what would you do, when you found yourself in demoralizing situation and the people who you thought might help you walked away when you needed them the most?
There was a ship that fell in to a deep dry well, the owner panicked for a while seeking for how to rescue the sheep, but there seems to be no way. People walked around the well for days hoping they could come up with a rational plan, but to no avail. The people concluded the only way to solve the problem is to condemn the well; the sheep looked up to them, as it watched it fate being decided, it has two options, it is either it await its death patiently, or hope on miracle. The sheep looked at some of its friend that it has helped in the past if they could just come up with a plan to rescue it, but they make no effort.
The people decided to seal up the well with the sheep inside it, by pouring loads of sand in the well, the sheep watched in anticipation for its doom. They began to pour the loads of sand sequentially, but something dramatic happened, the more they pour the sand, the more the ship shakes off the sand and climb on it, the more they pour the sand, the more the sheep give way to the sand to land in the well, so it could elevates it, it continue for hours, only for the sheep to get to the top most part of the well and jump out, and that was how the sheep survived what was meant to end its life.
I think of life’s situation as the deep dry well, those circumstances that you never bargained for, the betrayal, agony, loss of loved ones, financial turmoil and life tragedies you thought would have drowned your existence. While the sheep is us, you know sometimes is easy to think some circumstances of life will take our life, it becomes much more devastating when the people we thought would be there for us didn’t even try a bit to extend a helping hand. Here’s the fact, the problems are real, but the truth is, if you could look beyond the problems, and see life from another perspective, what you thought was your doom day becomes the greatest blessing you will forever be grateful for.
So i press upon you today, when it appears as if you’re at the edge of your life, see them as the dry well, and the challenges as the sand that is going to uplift you to your next level, the dry well is not meant to bury you, but to hide you for a while then lift you to your victory, so that when you come out, you come out refined and more determined.


More than a Mentor.


No! Today is not your birthday, but if i should wait for your birthday to post this, it would have lost it essence and wane in value.
You’ve taught me many lessons and value in life, but I guess we don’t know the value of a mentoring until we’ve stepped in to a new phase where in we are forced to applied some of those residual principles you’ve inherent in us by hanging around you and watching you do what you do.
I still remember the first time I heard you speak, I was in the crowd and Bam, the light went on in my mind, I knew this was what I love to do, call that divine. Then you met me and say these words “Young man, you look hungry and thirsty for knowledge, called this number” and that was it.
One of the best gift you’ve given me, is how you’ve welcomed and tolerated me in your space, even when you barely knew me.
I’ve watched you made mistakes, conquer minds, pay huge sacrifices, even to things you were not been paid for, well I guess that’s why it’s called sacrifice. I remembered looking at you in your room one day wondering why you’re making this huge sacrifices, and you look at me and said”Solomon am paying my dues, you will pay yours later” I couldn’t get it, not until recently.
The funny thing is, people wonder why you go these lengths just to affect your generation, bit they don’t understand the cost of a life. I was goalless, passionless and clueless until I met you, now I understand why you do what you do, it might not be for the crowd, but just that one person that would be able to yield to what you have to offer, they won’t recover from such impact EVER.
We watch you, hang around you, sometimes sleep on the same bed with you, those are gifts money can’t buy, if I have to auction the time and I hang around you, the things I learnt by just following you to series of events, not sure of any amount in cash can suffice.
This goes out to any young person out there, when you hang around a person, it shouldn’t just be about the cash, real wealth are in the values and deposit of wisdom you learnt from your mentor.
My advice to other mentors out there, be transparent to your mentees, let them watch you do what you do, and also learn from your mistakes.
I guess this is becoming too long, but the truth is I haven’t started yet.
Thank you Mr Aribisala Oljide.